“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” - Maya Angelou
Self-care isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity that costs $0
Self-care has been marketed as fancy spa days and expensive products, and while we love a good spa day a much as anyone else, this is really not what "true-self-care" is all about.
The marketed version we're all familiar with should probably be called something more like external care or body-focused care. Ironically, externally focused action is the last place we want to start because everything flows from the inside out.
Inner beliefs and thoughts lead to our outer expressions and actions. The final result is how we look, so it is no wonder that self-care is viewed mostly as fluff and empty gestures. We are approaching it all backward.
True-self-care must address the “Self” in its entirety, not just our body or appearance. The entire Self includes the mind, our emotions, the body, and our spirit. The most paramount of these aspects is our very state of being. Everything flows out from this. There is much more to us than meets the eye because we aren’t just humans… we are human beings.
When you take your car into the shop they don’t just look at the outside of the vehicle, they also look under the hood and at internal workings. And if it is a reputable mechanic, they will advise you on ways to improve, maintain, and avoid possible future break downs.
Well, consider us your reputable mechanics.
We have been practicing the exercise we are sharing today for many years now, but more than ever they are benefiting us and others who practice. We don’t need to remind you of the state of the world, but in times like these, we really need to get back to the basics.
Creating calm in the storm
Even in a storm, you can create calm. Not by calming the storm, that’s out of our control, but by calming ourselves which is completely in our control. When we have the understanding and focus that comes with a new expanded perspective, we begin tapping into what we call “true-self-care”.
We can become so used to the storms of our life that we actually begin to think chaos and stress are just how things are supposed to be. It is similar to how people from a big city get stir crazy while spending a weekend in the silence of nature and can't wait to return to the hustle and bustle they have become accustomed to. Our stressful lifestyles can make us feel at home in a place that's actually hurting us.
These are not easy things to do or say especially given what has happened in 2020, and we are not trying to minimize or overlook any of the heartache or terrible events that have taken place either. But it must be known that we will not grow in the pain, stress, or chaos. We grow the moment we decide to move out of the pain and forward with our life. Each individual is on their own timeline and when you feel ready to move forward, it's time to shift.
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” -Brené Brown
We'd like to invite you to shift your focus to what is most important in your life right now. When we change our focus, we literally change our life. If you're thinking that sounds kinda selfish, well that's because it is. But this is a good thing for you and everyone else on the planet.
"Self-ish" is exactly what is required for the entire "Self" to thrive. No one else will step up and support you better than you can. How could it be any other way?
What we are misled to believe is that being selfish and taking care of our "Self" first is somehow wrong or negative. Many think it is the same as saying that we don't care about other people or we are purposely ignoring others. This is false. It is of course the other way around, the best way to take care of others is to take care of ourselves first. We can not give what we do not first have. The more wellbeing you enjoy, the more you can give.
Once this shift occurs you will begin to notice how deep and beneficial this concept can become. In today’s world reclaiming our role as our own primary caretaker might be the most revolutionary thing we can do and that can scare some, especially considering the US healthcare system (or lack thereof) is 37th in the world as of this year, 2020. But this is an exciting time as many healthcare professionals around the world are beginning to expand beyond just our physical aspects. It's time to revolutionize how we see healthcare and it starts with each one of us.
After enough of us begin to shift, a giant wave of wellness will spread first to our families and friends, but then will ripple out exponentially. Maybe even some will start a blog or company and assist others by spreading empowering ideas... Who knows!