If you have been following our journey for any amount of time you probably know a little bit about us.
You might have seen our Youtube videos about how we met or our travel vlogs of us going around the world. Maybe you don't know us that well at all and you just saw us randomly on Instagram (Wendy's & Dan's) and were like, "these people look fun, what are they all about?"
Either way you are here now so thank you we couldn't be here without your support even if it was just random thumbs up somewhere.
But this got us thinking. People ask us all the time how we can help them find someone for themselves. A boyfriend or girlfriend and for the really ambitious people out there... wait for it... a soulmate.
Many people think we have some secret formula to having an awesome relationship and they want the goods!
It makes sense and we totally get it. Success leaves clues and in today's world the internet is the go-to for info and how-to videos. Here's the thing though, it's not about what we are doing...it's about HOW we are doing it.
Before we actually give you some tips and advice to walk away with, we want you to imagine something I am sure you are familiar with already. Play along with us for our sake...
Imagine something you are better at than anyone else. This could be a sport, a game, doing your hair, telling jokes, whatever you want.
If you can't think of anything right now just imagine comparing yourself to someone who is 5 years old... you can at least drive better than them, right? Okay, cool!
(Baby Driver, don't bother paying to see that movie. Sorry Jamie Foxx)
So imagine that 5 year old asking you how to drive and wanting to really get behind the wheel. This particular 5 year old loves your youtube videos where you show your driving skill and having a bunch of fun while giving out some very useful info here and there.
But this 5 year old wants more... the rabbit hole is very deep and this advice seeker is ready to dive in head first!
Now you know you can't just tell someone how to drive... you sort of can... but you really can't.
We can talk about the mechanics of it like how to start the car, where the gas and brakes are, how you change the oil, but knowing what to do is MUCH MUCH different than actually doing it, right?
Driving is the end result of a lot of practice, understanding things about your vehicle, yourself and the road in a way that no text book could ever really cover. You have to actually do it and learn from your own experiences. Of course teachers and coaches can help, but it ultimately comes down to you and your actions.
So what do you do with this person who wants some real advice and you really want to do everything you can to help that person finally drive... or in this case find that soulmate or at least begin the process of a great relationship.
In all cases you have to give each person what's most important at that time and allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from those mistakes. Not dumping too much info on them at once.
This helps them cultivate their own path of discovering more about themselves so their future success really comes from a well grounded reliable resource and well established "self guiding system".
So that brings us to right now.
If you are reading this, we can assume you want more love in your life in some way. Maybe with yourself, maybe with another person, maybe both or maybe you have recently been hurt.