How To Find Love

Love is not exclusive to anyone or a certain number of people. It’s available to all and within us all right now!

One might say that love is all there is.

Everything else is simply a limitation in our expression of the “all”.

If you have been searching for love, search no more!

It is here and now, already in you. And we'll prove it, scientifically in just a minute.

That feeling you have been longing for is closer than you could have ever dreamed possible.

February is a time of year where the winter months are starting to come to an end as Winter phases into Spring on March 21st.

Right around February 14th, we start to see the first signs of spring. For example, just last week we had two 60 degree days in NYC and everyone loved was out like it was mid-May. And of course, at the time of this post as we look out our window, it's literally snowing lol.

Historically this time of year means a time for celebration and anticipation for the “birth” of new things. Humans have always been concerned, grateful and excited to produce offspring or at least practice the act (wink).

For many with a cynical perspective, this day of love is seen as yet another way big business gets your money once again. But for many others, it means much more… something deeper.

It’s easy for us all to forget that we don’t have to go along with the crowd. Even the smallest gestures can go a long way if it is coming from the right place and with a little bit of effort behind it.

For us "Love Day" is a reminder about what matters most.

As we emerge from the cold and dark winter months this day serves as a bookmark to get back to spreading the love. The winter can be unforgiving and we can unknowingly become unforgiving to ourselves and others.

The cold winter months played a big factor in why we decided to skip winter in the US last year and head down to Costa Rica and South America for 4 months. We had an awakening of sorts and this truly helped us find what matters most for us.

We knew that we needed to change the way we were going about life and our plan came in the form of travel, meeting people, interacting with different cultures and having once in a lifetime experiences we will never forget. We made a ton of new friends in the process as well!

Our travels, much like this holiday, are reminders. They both in very different ways accomplish a similar function, to remember. We often need reminders in life to bring more awareness into our day to day lives so we can clear the clutter and make space for what matters most to us.

On the journey of life, things can start to look cold, dark and lonely... but this isn't the truth. We simply forget. It's not about not feeling those things either. They are apart of the human experience. It's all-important and useful if we choose to see it that way. Everything really is a reminder to get back to what is most important to you, if you choose to see it that way.

In talking with many different people around the world we are honored to hear about their own stories. We are able to see how we are all very similar no matter where we are from, or what our history was like.

What's interesting is that when we discuss and talk with people we are able to boil things down and observe some very common things that we all go through.

When people who report they are not happy or not where they want to be, we are able to observe a main common theme. Many are struggling with some form of a feeling of lack. A feeling of missing some key component that they have searched everywhere but can't find it.

It's frustrating, it is painful and can drive some people to do very destructive things to themselves or others or both.

Although all of these stories are unique, we see many common overlaps. Many simply feel not able to feel a sense of a deeper level of love within themselves or what many refer to as “self-love”.

This leads to a lot of issues in life and relationships with others literally blocking loving energy from being experiencing to the point of pain and suffering physically and emotionally. In this process, we also hurt our partners and significant others.

Why? Because we tend to put expectations on our partners that simply is not their responsibility. The responsibility is always ours to heal regardless of who is at fault.

You’ve probably seen popular memes about self-love and self-care, but what does that actually mean? And how does that translate to a partnership?

Well, you could try what the world has taught you or you could do what you feel resonates most with your inner being.

We all know how the first way usually ends up, short-lived and back to “normal”.

The second option most people simply have never done. We are often too scared to look or feel "stupid" or some other form of "what will people think of me".