When Are We Getting Married?

There are 2 main questions we get asked on a near daily basis:

1) How do we afford to travel and live the life we do? (we have a video up all about that btw click here to watch)


2) When are we getting married?

Today we are going to dive in, break down and take a deeper look into the second question.

First let’s all get on the same page for a moment. This will help us make sense of our perspective, why we aren’t “married yet” and why you may never see two people uniting the same way ever again! (Or at least be more open minded about it all).

Marriage is the union of two people right?

Well sort of...

Let’s look at the definition of a few variations of this word as it has evolved a bit over the years.

If you google "marriage" you get this:

The legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman).

Let’s break that down for a sec.

The LEGALLY or FORMALLY recognized union of two people ...

As partners in a PERSONAL relationship.

(We highlighted the important words for emphasis)

From what we have seen marriage has become a sort of show or party which is totally fine.

We have a show on YouTube so we get it. Shows are awesome and can be really fun!

Parties too! We love them just as much as you do!

The problem is that the party or show seems often to be for other people not the two coming together in union. For us this seems to be disconnected from why we are making this decision in the first place.

No shots fired here, you are free to do what you want and how you want with whomever you want... that is the beauty of life. It's simply just not what we desire to do.

We feel this thing we are doing called marriage really has little to do with a show or party for others. That is not saying we won't party with our loved ones, but it's worth noting this difference.

Again we actually have a show... (and we do it for us because it’s fun and allows us to live a certain type of way, but more on that in another post).

Now it also says LEGALLY or FORMALLY.

This means we can do it in a way that is formal to us and NOT necessarily “legal” or involving government or the state in any way.

Again the choice is totally ours.

Our right to practice our "religion of LOVE" is ours and up to us how we decide to express it. It's our right to express our own "religion", right?

That was how it was intended to be in the United States from what I was taught.

So are we on the same page still?</